now most of them blame it on their own experiences with men, but is it possible that they are basing it upon the fact that their own father was an unreliable, untrustworhy male?
some females are so scared to open up to men, that they push them away or are already expecting them to fail and break their trust. the lack of a father (if that is the situation)in a female's life definitely affects the sort of relationships she has in the future
they say that women tend to marry a man who is exactly like their father, so does that mean that some women will marry (or shack up with) an unreliable man who fucks and ducks them, doesnt care for their children and doesn't support them? i'm afraid that for some people this is the case, but then again, we can also place the blame on the mothers of today.
i know a girl whose mother had her first child when she was 14; by the time this girl was 15, she had already had sex with about 6/7 different guys in the space of about a year...
i think if you grow up around the wrong influences, you follow/copy the behaviour that you are shown from a young age
the same goes for kids who see their mother being abuse both physically or mentally by their fathers. the boys go on to do the same to their women, and the girls grow up thinking its ok for a guy to abuse them...
in my eyes, all the issues go back to the parents - parents need to learn to censor themselves around their children and need to show them the correct examples for what kind of behaviour is acceptable in the future.
personally, i think my perceptions of men and relationships have been affected by what i've seen between my parents.
i know that if/when i get married, i will definitely not be waiting on my husband like some kinda slave, and i wont be involving any kids i might have in our arguments.
i might seem like a man-basher, but i'm really not. i just talk about what i see
